JoyGasm is asking Conscious Leaders to share their practices of Self Love​ that help them stay strong, focused and powerful as they champion their mission to change the world. 

If you only had 10 minutes a day for Self Care, what would you DO?

Tamara Ward Guide and Empowerment Coach

Ask yourself, what is the thing I love to do?

I've thought about your request to elaborate on what "meditation on divine connection & centeredness" means to me, and I can't describe to the masses the exact technique they should use to access that Divine Connection and centeredness. That IS the journey. How they get there is uniquely personal, and not as important as it is that they get there. Often times people already know what that thing is they do that gets them into a place where they're feeling so open and in flow with Divine energy. The feeling of centerdness is a wonderful byproduct of accessing that openness. I've tried to describe it in some of my classes, and truly, its a feeling.. but you'll know it when you get there.

Opening and connecting to divine energy flow can be inspired by connecting to music, being in harmony with your favorite song. (Live version of "Hotel California" always catapolts me into the stratosphere), breath & movement like a walk in the park, Qui Gong, or yoga is another effective way for many people to open to divine flow, and then of course, there's always invoking the Reiki symbols as another method. I also know people who access that energy through cooking, baking, and some who connect through orgasm! Ask yourself, what is the thing I love to do where my mind quiets, my heart opens and I feel at peace with everything... even just for a little while. Do that and maintain that feeling of openness the rest of the day. You'll thank me for it later. 😉

Elena HarderJoyGasm Founder and Self Love Expert

The "Feeling when you get there" is totally true.  I love Tamara's truth and reality that it's not always easy to find that space, but we all uniquely know what gets us there.  From there, enjoy the journey, and thank her later!  I've had the pleasure of getting to know Tamara in person and her wit never ceases to amuse and amaze me.  

What is your take on self-love? Why is it important, and what's the most powerful way you've found to do it?

Self love is where one values themselves enough to make themselves a priority in their own life. Fill your cup so you have something to offer others. The best way to do it is to first evaluate what they need most in their life to put them in motion to achieving it.

Boundary setting, self nurture time, removing the fear of change, and “control” often comes up, so redirecting their awareness to controlling their response rather than trying to control the situation supports them in that.

What is your biggest struggle in your relationships right now?

Not having a romantic relationship for five years, I’m deferring to my “friend” experiences.

My personal relationships struggle when I over extend myself for my friend and then feel resentful when (I feel) its not appreciated or reciprocated.

How has that changed since you started learning about self-love?

Self love has taught that if I’ve made the choice to extend myself for my friend, then I honor that. I honor my choice and my actions as a result. I love myself enough to not focus on how they respond, rather I accept my role and my choices

What's the most important skill you've learned to help you deal with the challenges of being in relationships?

Boundaries & compassion

What has been the biggest unexpected challenge you've had in creating your great work in the world?

I’m finding that people love to talk about their misery, explore it and analyze it, but very few want to do something about it, nor pay for the support in doing it.

Also published on Medium.

Share The Gasm...

Struggle with Judgement, Self Confidence or Worthiness?

You can show yourself you deserve better in just 30 seconds a day.
With the I LOVE YOU's Practice, you get a really PRACTICAL,
and effective way to tell your body, heart and subconscious that you really are lovable, deserving of your dream life, and ready for the love you desire.

Get the Free eCourse Now!

Elena Harder. Courage Catalyst, LifeStyle Artist and Joy Hacker. Elena created JoyGasm to heal her experience of postpartum depression, self sabotage, overworking, people pleasing, and an abusive alcoholic relationship. Since then she’s helped hundreds of others meet their JoyGasmic Self to heal broken hearts, remove negative self talk, eliminate stress, fear and depression, and bring immense joy into daily life. Her current personal records for longest standing greeting hug is 22 minutes, longest continuous solo laugh 26 minutes, and longest collaborative laugh at 1 hour 45 minutes!